How to hold boundaries with the people closest to you

Can you relate to this? 

For the past 10+ years my client had been struggling to hold boundaries with the people closest to her. Her partner. Her parents. Her oldest friends. 

And it left her feeling taken advantage of, belittled and fed up. 

Now her relationships are transforming before her eyes, she's feeling more respected, and is honouring her needs. 

This is TOUGH work, but it actually is more simple than you might think. 

First off, you CAN renegotiate relationships as you evolve. Especially with relationships that have been in your life for a long time - you change, and the people in your life do too.

You realise your needs have changed, or that you’ve been sacrificing your needs to please those around you and you’re no longer willing to do so.

For my client, this was the case with her longterm partner, her parents, and some of her oldest friends.

She told me that with her parents’ criticisms left her feeling disempowered & attacked. These are sometimes the hardest relationships to shift because you’ve been stuck in these cycles for so long - sometimes as long as you can remember!

But since we’ve been working together, her parents have stopped being so critical of her. Her relationship with her partner (who she was ready to call it quits with) has completely transformed. She’s no longer feeling the burden of having to carry the relationship alone.

✨These are the 3 biggest shifts that she’s made through us working together that have led to this mega success 👇🏼

1. She recognises that change requires effort and she’s chosen which relationships are worth putting in the effort.

2. She’s taking responsibility for her side of the street. She recognised that she can’t force people to change but she can let others know what behaviour she is willing and unwilling to accept. This has opened a new door for her relationships to be different… People can’t honour your new boundaries if you don’t share them ‼️

3. She’s giving herself permission to disappoint others so that she can honour herself, and in doing so she’s let go of the guilt - for example of distancing herself from old friends who only take and don’t give back.

4. She knows that continuing to give to relationships that don’t feel good is keeping her from investing her energy in people who do for this phase in her life.
 

I hope this give you a little bit of guidance and inspiration to start holding boundaries with your loved ones too. 

This year relationships have become such a huge topic in my coaching practice, and one of my favourite topics to support clients with. If you want to learn more about how coaching can support you to improve YOUR relationships, reach out to me! I'd love to help!

xo Simone 

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